Knowing when the proper preload is achieved is a real trick as far as I have seen. NC Cams and other bearing experts seem to indicate there is no easy way to do this and you should send the bearings off to a specialist to grind them so they become a matched pair.
It occurs to me that one could build a test cell that would enable you to set a recommended preload and then measure the displacement caused by that preload and thereby determine the required spacer thickness.
I have some notes on how to create such a test fixture on my web site here:
http://www.cnccookbook.com/CCMillBeltDrive.html
I haven't tried it. I'll be interested to see if someone else has a better idea, or whether the suggestion is to just take a wild guess on the spacers and get things approximately right.
Cheers,
BW