Have a look at the right hand side on the bottom face of the end flange on the spindle nose. You should see two holes about 1-5/8" apart that are tapped 8-32 (I think). These are used to attach the speeder anchor block from Haas.
Incidentally you do not need to worry about 'hammering the poor TM1' at 4k all day, it can handle it. Our Haas machines run most of the time at their max rpm whether it be 6000, 7500 or 10,000; they are designed to do that.
You also do not really need to 'tell the machine' a speeder is present; you need to take it into account with your feed and you need to recognise that the speeder reduces torque available at the cutter by more than the speed ratio due to friction losses. This means you will probably have to use lower feed rates than would be possible with direct drive at the same cutter rpm.
It is possible to reduce the spindle acceleration by Parameter 196 Sp ACCEL LIMIT LOAD; out of the factory this is set at 195. To change this you need to turn Setting 7 off and push Estop then enter your value. I do not think it is really necessary to worry about it; if the speeder cannot handle the acceleration load how is it going to handle any cutting load.
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